If there are no rules in the family, there are no principles for the children.
Mencius said,'if you don't follow the rules, you can't make a square. "
for a family to prosper, it needs to be disciplined and disciplined.
A family without rules is worse than poverty.
be courteous and courteous to elders
Director Chen Kaige and his wife Chen Hong took part in a show with their son Chen Feiyu.
program, when Chen Feiyu pushed the door in, his parents were having dinner and talking.
so Chen Feiyu gently closed the door and stood in the corner of the door without disturbing his parents.
it was not until Chen Kaige called Chen Feiyu over that he walked over quietly and slowly.
Chen Hong fed Chen Feiyu a mouthful of food and asked him if it was delicious.
because he was chewing food in his mouth, Chen Feiyu did not speak, but nodded.
after that, Chen Kaige handed his chopsticks to Chen Feiyu and asked him to eat a piece of meat.
Chen Feiyu took the chopsticks handed over by Chen Kaige with both hands and nodded to his father gracefully.
when Chen Kaige was recalling the past with Chen Hong, Chen Feiyu crouched beside his mother and hugged her shoulder tightly.
parents chat as children do not interrupt, can not talk at dinner, pick up their hands and nod to show their gratitude.
after watching the video, many viewers praised Chen Kaige's tutoring and Chen Feiyu's courtesy and courtesy.
the attitude of children towards their parents reveals their upbringing as well as their parents' tutoring.
only parents with strict tutoring can teach educated children.
Guo Degang is famous for his strict tutoring and strict family style.
Guo Degang never played a joke on his father, never said a dirty word at home, and was always respectful to his father.
his son, Guo Qilin, does not look domineering at all. When Guo Degang speaks, Guo Qilin always stands behind him with a respectful look.
Graham, a famous American priest, said:
"A child who is allowed to disrespect his parents will not know how to really respect anyone."
and children who are well-behaved and educated in this way will be liked and respected wherever they go.
like Chen Feiyu and Guo Qilin, they not only have good career development, but also have a good reputation in the industry.
for children, the rules are strict
writer Liu Yong once said a very profound sentence:
"if you are not willing to set rules for your children, someone will teach them a lesson."
Liu Yong is a typical strict father who has been setting rules for his son since childhood to teach him independence and respect.
when his son Liu Xuan was not talkative when he was young, he developed the habit of being autistic. Liu Yong made very strict rules for his son.
do your own things, keep a strict schedule, and don't be lazy.
do your own laundry. When your parents are not at home, you have to cook for yourself.
my son needs to take care of watching TV and playing with his mobile phone, and he sends his son to a place where he can go to school for three hours alone.
once, when his son did something wrong, Liu Yong scolded him a few words and then turned his head to the other side.
when he turned his head, Liu Yong found his son secretly raising his foot and signalling that he wanted to kick him.
although the son's this is a "fake", it is still seen by Liu Yong.
so Liu Yong began to teach his son a lesson.
under the restraint of his father, Liu Xuan learned to be independent at an early age, studied very hard, and was admitted to Harvard University.
in the face of his father's discipline, Liu Xuan also hated, rebellious and hated his father.
but in the year when he grew up and was admitted to Harvard, Liu Xuan suddenly realized his father's good intentions.
Liu Xuan confessed his father and said:
"for the past 21 years, I have hated your strict discipline; 21 years later, I am very grateful for your generosity. I should take off, but somehow I am a little reluctant to give up."
Children are naughty and rebellious by nature, but if parents blindly follow their children's temper, they are likely to lead their children astray.
maybe children can't understand their parents' intentions when they are young. Over time, they will certainly understand their parents' good intentions.
parents who do not know how to set rules cannot raise promising children.
Liang Qichao once said, "instead of reasoning with children, it is better to set rules."
in Liang Qichao's eyes, it is never the reason that changes life, but the rules.
when Liang Qichao was six years old, he lied to his mother because of a trivial matter and was called to the bedroom by his mother to give him a severe lesson.
his mother has always been gentle and honest, and this is the first time Liang Qichao has seen his mother angry.
Liang Qichao tried to cover it up, but unexpectedly made his mother angry and began to teach him a lesson.
from then on, his mother laid down the rule of "no lies" for him.
after Liang Qichao became big, his mother told him earnestly:
"people lie or do things they shouldn't do."But falsely claimed that he had not done it;
or there is something that needs to be done that has not been done well, but falsely claims to have done it. "
his mother's words left a deep impression on Liang Qichao and laid down rules in his young heart.
Family Education once said: "Freedom with rules is called lively, and freedom without rules is presumptuous."
if the family has no rules, the children will have no principles.
when children are young, if they do not set rules, they will easily lack awe when they move into society in the future.
the sense of rules is not only the armor to protect the child, but also the door to the future world.
husband and wife respect each other
I saw a movie called "Marriage Story" a long time ago, which is about the demise of a perfect marriage.
Charlie is a talented director and Nicole is an excellent actress. The two fell in love at first sight because of their work.
they once thought that each other was the most suitable soul mate, and others thought they were a tacit couple.
is such a tacit understanding of the couple, and finally to the point of divorce.
after living together for a long time, they will block out each other's strengths and see only weaknesses.
Charlie became a shopkeeper at home. His wife took care of all the children, and he turned a deaf ear to them.
Charlie also ignored his wife's emotions and was arbitrary and bossy, and his wife didn't even have a say.
the location and type of the apartment did not ask his wife's opinion, and the furniture was all bought according to his taste, and nothing the wife wanted.
once, the two quarreled again over the custody of their children. The more they talked, the more excited they became, and the more they talked, the more their emotions got out of control.
finally began to dig up each other's old debts, each said a lot of things to hurt each other, Charlie growled:
"I want you to die every morning. I hope you get seriously ill or get hit by a car."
they attacked and blamed each other in the most vicious language.
the two hearts gradually go farther and farther, and finally go their separate ways completely.
I am filled with emotion when I think of a piece of news I saw a few days ago.
in many divorce cases, the top cause of divorce is not domestic violence or emotional breakdown, but innocuous "trivialities of life".
because husband and wife do not know how to compromise with each other, trivial things are becoming more and more serious, and finally become the fuse of divorce.
many people will feel that it is necessary to tell the rules to the elders and the rules to the children.
only ignore the relationship between husband and wife, in fact, we also need to pay attention to the rules.
A family, where husband and wife are the dearest and most beloved, also need to make rules:
if you don't quarrel at night, the husband should coax his wife first.
Don't use reason to solve problems that can be solved with emotion;
Don't say anything that hurts the other person's self-esteem, apologize if you say it;
Don't do it under any circumstances;
if there are differences in the event of an accident, both sides should respect and communicate.
housework should be allocated properly and should not rely on the efforts of one party.
Don't sing a different tune in front of the children, regardless of the United front.
only when husband and wife work together can a family become rich and life will be better and better.
Love between husband and wife is the best feng shui for a family.
the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, the natural wind and water of the family rises, and flourishes.
China is a country of etiquette, dealing with people and dealing with others, both exquisite and legal.
the rules handed down by our ancestors are reflected in the details of life.
this is a rule and an upbringing.
respect for elders:
the things given by the elders should be picked up respectfully with both hands.
when you meet an elder, you should take the initiative to say hello.
Don't cut in when the elders are talking.
walk with your elders, walk at the back.
you can't call your elders by their first names, you should use honorific names.
when eating, you should wait for the elders to move their chopsticks first.
Don't be picky about eating, don't waste, don't smash your mouth, don't knock on bowls and chopsticks.
Don't make a loud noise to disturb the sight and hearing of others.
Don't sit sideways, don't cross your legs, don't touch your feet.
clothes and hats are not added to the clothes and hats of others.
do not spray water and spit on people.
Don't yawn, sneeze or stretch.
Don't shake your legs or cross your legs.
A family with rules can get rich no matter how poor it is, because it is in awe;
A family with no rules will be ruined no matter how rich it is, because the family style is not right.
regular and well-behaved, it is not only the best spiritual real estate for a family, but also the best feng shui for a family.
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