With whom, there will be what kind of life.
Xunzi said: "if you fly with the Phoenix, you must be a handsome bird; if you walk with a tiger and wolf, you must be a beast."
how far a person can go depends on who he is traveling with.
with positive and optimistic people, the heart is full of positive energy; walking with wise people, life is full of wisdom; walking with superior people will lead to the pinnacle of life.
the kind of life you will have with whoever you are with.
circles are different, so there is no need to integrate
Zhuangzi wrote in Qiushui: "well frogs can't talk about the sea, summer worms can't talk about ice."
Frogs in deep wells naturally do not understand the breadth of the sea; bugs in summer cannot sense winter because of the season.
people at different levels can never chat together, and people in different circles don't have to be integrated.
during the period of the three Kingdoms, Guan Ning and Hua Xin were classmates and friends, and they had a very good relationship, but with the passage of time, the gap between them became wider and wider.
Guan Ning is indifferent to fame and wealth and only reads the books of saints and sages, while Hua Xin covets splendor and wealth and loses his original heart.
when they were hoeing, they found a piece of gold together. Guan Ning was unmoved, but Hua Xin held it reluctantly in his hand.
when we were reading together, there was a gorgeous carriage passing by outside the window. Guan Ning was at ease with reading, and Hua Xin immediately put down the book and went out to watch.
from then on, Guan Ning and Hua Xin severed their diplomatic relations, and they were no longer friends.
Duke Wei Ling in the Analects of Confucius: "if you have different ways, you will not conspire with each other; if you have different aspirations, you will not be friends with each other."
the key to making friends is that they share the same values. If there is a great difference between the two, they will eventually drift away.
people are different, so there is no need to force
it is written in Zuo Zhuan: "people are as different as they are."
everyone's heart is different, just like the face, it is very different.
if people are different, they don't have to go together.
simple and good people are bound to suffer when they encounter hypocritical and cunning people, and people with good character and villains will not be in cahoots.
at the end of the Song Dynasty and the beginning of the Ming Dynasty, the scholar Xu Heng fled with everyone. When he came across a pear tree, everyone went up to scramble, but Xu Heng was unmoved.
people asked him, "everyone is taking it, why don't you pick pears to quench your thirst?"
Xu Heng said, "on the one hand, I don't know who the owner of the pear tree is, and on the other hand, it is not mine, so how can I pick it randomly?"
everyone laughed and said, "who knows who owns the pear tree?"
Xu Heng said slowly, "although this pear tree has no owner, I have a master in my heart."
as the saying goes, "righteous men do not deceive their hearts, and incorruptible men do not take indiscriminately."
A true righteous man, even without supervision, will restrain himself with his heart, and an honest man will not be greedy just because no one sees him.
with different ideological realms, they are naturally unable to communicate, have different goals, and are unable to walk together.
each person has his own ambition, and there is a difference between high and low ambition, so there is no need to disturb.
people's hearts are different in size and size, so there is no need to force them.
who you are with determines your life
in Xunzi's persuasion to learn, it is written: "Pengsheng hemp, do not help but straight; white sand in nirvana, with it black."
the grass grows in the hemp field, even if it is not supported, it will straighten up; when the white sand is mixed in the black soil, it will gradually dye black.
you become who you are with.
during the warring States period, Chunyu Kun recommended seven wise men to King Xuan of Qi in one day. King Xuan of Qi was surprised and asked, "is it reliable?"
Chunyu Kun said confidently, "I am a sage myself. Since ancient times, birds of a feather flock together. People around me are sages, so it is easy to find them."
there is a saying in the Book of changes: "one voice corresponds to each other, and we are in the same phase."
most of the time, we will find that people who share the same fun and aspirations are more likely to attract each other and naturally get together.
positive and optimistic people are surrounded by positive friends, while pessimistic and negative people are surrounded by dark clouds.
in ancient times, Mencius' mother moved three times because of this reason, and it was precisely because he was constantly looking for a good atmosphere and people of noble character that he made a generation of Mencius.
as the saying goes, "those who are close to red are red, those who are close to ink are black."
the kind of life you will have with whoever you are with.
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "A bad friend is respectfully far away, while a good friend is respectful and close. If you make friends with virtue and righteousness, it doesn't matter whether you are rich or poor. "
it is very important who you are with. If an eagle grows up in a bird's nest, it will lose its ability to soar in the sky.
when a wolf grows up in a flock of sheep, he will lose the valiant spirit of galloping the earth.
how far a man can go in his life depends on who he walks with. If he wants to be a goshawk, don't sing with birds!
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