When you are with someone who is comfortable, you just need to be yourself.
I have read such a passage on the Internet:
"the most terrible thing in a relationship is that a person is busy, a person is idle, a person is sensitive and delicate, and a person does not like to explain.
the relationship between each other is gradually estranged, not because they do not love, but because of repeated contradictions and misunderstandings, which make each other tired. "
you know, whether two people love or not is the second, and it is most important that they are not tired.
the rest of your life is so long, if you can, I hope you can marry someone who makes you feel comfortable.
in fact, in adult relationships, comfort is more important than love.
writer Su Qin once said:
"stay with whoever you are comfortable with, including friends, and stay away when you are tired."
Life is already so hard, if you still have to speculate and compromise in love, forget it.
just like the heroine in the Japanese TV series "calm Leisure", she is good at observing words and expressions at first and is always obedient to the people around her. She is a typical girl with a flattering personality.
in order to cater to her boyfriend's aesthetic standards, she, who is naturally curly, secretly gets up an hour early every day and pulls her curly hair straight behind her boyfriend's back.
she took good care of her boyfriend when he was sick. He didn't like her drinking, so she pretended to be alcoholic.
in order to please her boyfriend, she always tries her best to disguise herself and change herself, but in the end she hears her boyfriend privately complain to others about her faults.
in fact, we often do this in our lives, constantly changing ourselves in order to please others, thinking that if we strive to meet the needs of others, we can gain love.
but in the end, I find that no matter how hard I try, people who don't like you will still not like you.
and those who like you don't need your effort at all, because they will like you the way you are.
in fact, the best way for two people to be together is to be who they really are. They don't have to pretend or change.
you know his silence, he understands your hesitation, even if they don't talk, they are very comfortable and beautiful.
I have received many messages from listeners backstage these days:
some people say that they have been on and off with their boyfriend for three or five times and feel that they really can't hold on.
some people say what to do if my girlfriend is too suspicious and tired to get along.
others say that she is now 30 years old, and her family urges her to get married quickly, but she hasn't met anyone she likes yet. do you want to find someone to make do with it?
in fact, we are all beginners about feelings, and no one will give you a real standard answer.
the only thing I can tell you is that no matter what choice you make, it will pass. Life is so long, there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome, and there is no tomorrow that cannot be reached.
it's just that I hope you can be loyal to yourself and choose a way to make yourself comfortable. After all, there is only one life, and what you should please most is yourself.
if you feel uncomfortable with the person around you right now, and you can't hold on any longer, you might as well leave. Maybe Ta is struggling with the same problem.
if you feel that your current life makes you dissatisfied, try to change it. You are still so young and there are many possibilities. Try to give yourself more choices.
you should know that a person's greatest contribution to the world is to make himself comfortable and happy.
the rest of my life is so long, be sure to get along with the comfortable people, talk to the people you like, learn to accept a certain stage of separation, and learn to embrace the new beauty in life.
as Maupassant once said:
people are more fragile and strong than they can imagine.
sometimes you may be so fragile that you burst into tears at a word, and sometimes you find yourself walking a long way by clenching your teeth.
so, you have to believe that no matter what choice you make, you will come tomorrow as promised, and you must be bold and loyal to yourself.
I still remember seeing such a question on Zhihu: how to judge whether it is appropriate for two people to be together?
here is an answer that impresses me:
"it's probably not appropriate that I can't make you laugh, and you'll just make me cry. After that, I said I was leaving, you didn't ask to stay, and I didn't look back."
Yes, it is clear to each other whether it is appropriate for two people to be together, and the unease, the discomfort, the entanglement reminds me every moment.
you cannot pretend to be happy, much less can you pretend to be happy.
instead of doing this, we might as well let each other live.
being with comfortable people is the best way to maintain good health.
True love is not nervous, that is, you can burp, fart, pick your ears and have a runny nose in front of him.
the one who really loves you is the one you can meet without washing your face, combing your hair or wearing makeup.
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when you are with someone who is comfortable, you will not be afraid, let alone worry about gain or loss, because you know that he will accept what you have.Sometimes, all you have to do is be yourself.
Happy Marriage also said a paragraph:
people who live in happy marriages live longer and healthier lives than those who are divorced or in unhappy marriages.
because good love will make people see the wider world and better themselves, while bad love will make your world narrower and narrower, leaving only that unbearable self.
so, please boldly choose the person who makes you comfortable and leave the person who makes you uncomfortable.
you must believe that you deserve a better partner and a better life.
, may you sleep comfortably every night and wake up full of hope every day.
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