as the saying goes, "words are the voice of the heart, words are the state of mind."

if you look at the quality of a person's character, you can often know a thing or two from his words.

people with good character make people feel like a spring breeze in conversation, while people with bad character have a sarcastic speech that makes people uncomfortable.

if a person often says these things, most of them are not of good character and must not make deep acquaintances, otherwise they will easily suffer losses.

Don't complain about others

in this life, nine out of ten unsatisfactory things can be said to be the same as others.

everyone will encounter difficulties of one kind or another, sometimes as a last resort, sometimes insincerely.

but complaining not only won't solve any problems, it will make things worse.

the hunter went hunting in the mountain, but the mountain was blocked by heavy snow and could only cross a glacier.

but the glacier is at risk of cracking, and the hunter thinks about it and has no choice but to climb over it.

at last, the hunter died. The glacier did not break, he was frozen to death, and the other bank was only one step away from him.

"if you are too upset, you will always stop later." If Gai complains about the sky for no reason, then heaven will not allow it, and if there is no reason for people, then people will not be obeyed, and it is only natural to feel. "

complain about the sky for no reason, then the sky will not agree.

enough is enough to complain, otherwise it will do no good to others and no good to yourself.

however, many people spend most of their lives struggling with negativity and complaint.

some people complain about the bad weather and get drenched; some people get rid of the local diet and have no appetite; others complain about the pressure of work and the poor survival of society.

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but whose life is perfect? People who are used to complaining expose their ignorance and immaturity.

dumping "rubbish" in moments will not only fail to solve the problem properly, but also affect the mood of others.

if you go on like this, you will have fewer friends, because no one will like people who exude negative energy all day.

really smart people don't pass the buck when things happen, and always look for reasons from themselves in advance, so they can stumble less and less

take a detour.

Don't say embarrassing things

as the saying goes, "if you hit someone, don't hit him in the face."

talking about the shortcomings of others is not only a sign of low EQ, but also brings trouble to yourself sometimes.

Historical Records records a story like this:

Zhao Guoping's concubine, Zhao Sheng, saw the cripple limping upstairs facing the street and asked loudly, "Brother, can you fetch water?" Can I help you? "

the cripple suddenly felt so insulted that he was so angry that he found Zhao Sheng and angrily asked Zhao Sheng to kill the concubine.

Zhao Sheng hesitated, and he immediately persuaded him:

"everyone thinks that Mr. Plain respects the scholar and despises the lowly woman, so the scholars have come thousands of miles to join you.

as the saying goes, scholars can be killed but not humiliated. Please make the decision for me. Otherwise, others will think that you are lecherous and cheap, and will leave you. "

Mr. Plain had nothing to say, so he had no choice but to cut off this concubine who had no discretion in speaking.

in fact, there are not a few people who are used to blurting out without considering the feelings of others.

if you put on a new dress and send it to your moments, he will say, "the color of this dress doesn't match your skin color at all";

if you change a new hairstyle, he will say, "this hairstyle is not suitable for you."

you share your husband's "520" red packet during the holiday, but he says, "your husband is too stingy, at least '1314'

ah ";

.

born human, everyone has the right to speak and express, but the most basic upbringing of adults is not to embarrass others easily.

every word we say should have a proper sense of proportion.

A person who is unforgiving in his mouth, likes to take advantage of his tongue and gossips everywhere must be a selfish person.

on the contrary, people with outstanding character know what to say and what not to say, know how to take care of other people's feelings, and people are willing to associate with them.

Don't talk about boasting

there is a saying in Caigen Tan: "when the rich and the poor talk about dreams, whose stove is smoke-free?"

means, don't boast about your wealth to others all the time. Whose stove doesn't smoke?

it is true that everyone is worth showing off, but what others praise is word-of-mouth, and what they boast is boast.

people who like to boast about themselves tend to be arrogant and defiant, which can easily arouse the resentment of others.

Zhang ailing and Yan Ying used to be very good friends.

the two have similar literary hobbies and aesthetic tastes, so they have the appropriateness and sincerity to get along with each other.

Zhang ailing's two marriages were both witnesses made by Yan Ying.

you share your husband's "520" red packet during the holiday, but he says, "your husband is too stingy, at least '1314'

ah ";

.

born human, everyone has the right to speak and express, but the most basic upbringing of adults is not to embarrass others easily.

every word we say should have a proper sense of proportion.

A person who is unforgiving in his mouth, likes to take advantage of his tongue and gossips everywhere must be a selfish person.

on the contrary, people with outstanding character know what to say and what not to say, know how to take care of other people's feelings, and people are willing to associate with them.

Don't talk about boasting

there is a saying in Caigen Tan: "when the rich and the poor talk about dreams, whose stove is smoke-free?"

means, don't boast about your wealth to others all the time. Whose stove doesn't smoke?

it is true that everyone is worth showing off, but what others praise is word-of-mouth, and what they boast is boast.

people who like to boast about themselves tend to be arrogant and defiant, which can easily arouse the resentment of others.

Zhang ailing and Yan Ying used to be very good friends.

the two have similar literary hobbies and aesthetic tastes, so they have the appropriateness and sincerity to get along with each other.

Zhang ailing's two marriages were both witnesses made by Yan Ying.

when Zhang ailing's life was in the doldrums, every time Yan Ying wrote to Zhang ailing, she could not help boasting about herself or talking about the past events of several decades ago, regardless of her friends' current feelings.

later, the two became increasingly estranged until they finally broke off their diplomatic relations.

but the stars in the sky could be counted, but the soot on his face could not be seen.

I buy a bunch of books just to take pictures and show off in moments, but I've never read them seriously.

even at all costs, flatter yourself with words that belittle others to elevate yourself.

Carnegie said a classic saying:

"the saddest person in the world is to hide his pitiful sense of inferiority with tiresome arrogance and boasting when he has no merit to show off."

people who are really knowledgeable and cultured will not take the initiative to advertise themselves.

as the saying goes, the sky does not speak of self-elevation, the earth does not speak of self-thickness, people do not speak of their own energy, and water flows without words.

the most important thing in being a man is to have self-knowledge, neither belittling others nor boasting about yourself. Only in the right degree can you win the favor of all.

Cai Kangyong once said, "dignitaries may not change their lives, and their appearance may not necessarily determine their attractiveness, but they can speak

to! "

you are what you say, that is who you are.

the so-called way of speaking is actually the way of being a man.

people who can talk, know how to grasp the yardstick, pay attention to discretion, leave room for others, give themselves a way out, treat others sincerely,

good character;

people who can't talk never take care of other people's emotions, but only talk about themselves. Such a person's character is also

not much better.

people live all their lives, write about themselves, and learn to be a man all their lives.

everything you do, every word you say, invisibly affects your connections, emotions, and life.

you are as good as you, but don't lose because you can't speak.

encourage each other!