Only silence is the best way to protect your dignity.
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A few words is wisdom, but a few words accumulate virtue.
Life is not a matter of witticism, but of keeping your mouth when you are in a group and your heart when you are alone.
nine times out of ten, there are unsatisfactory things in the world, but when you learn not to say, you will learn to advance as you retreat, and you will naturally reap the infinite power from silence.
therefore, a person understands silence, not because he has no emotion, but because he has a strong heart, not impetuous because of gains and losses, honor or disgrace, and not upset by the temptation of the outside world.
Silence is the true maturity.
Silence means you don't want to say
the adult world is broken on the one hand and strong on the other.
the book says:
"there are many moments when you are thrilling and the world knows nothing; you climb over mountains and the earth is silent."
people suffer in all ways, but some people have nothing to say and some people have nothing to say.
therefore, the best way to grow up is to keep silent, move forward alone, make your soul more noble and make your life more wonderful.
my friend shared her experience with me:
when she first joined the profession, she was not familiar with anything, there was no one in the department and no special training, her boss gave her a job that could only cross the river by feeling the stones, and she was often scolded for making mistakes.
once, when she had lunch with her colleagues, she cried about her stress and helplessness, but she was ridiculed by her colleagues.
originally wanted to relieve the pressure, but the sour words of her colleagues made her even more sad.
"when you are sad, don't tell your misfortune like a victim." Because people who don't understand you don't understand and don't care about your sadness and situation. "
everyone will have a dark and obscure time that no one can understand.
"but the hardest time in my life is when I struggle to get up, not those spectators who pull me up."
there is no empathy in the world, you do not know what to do, your helplessness, in the eyes of others is just small talk, will not let others have the slightest touch.
the real grievance, the real sadness, is mostly unspeakable, because laugh, the whole world will accompany you laugh, cry, only you cry alone.
so if you see too much human feelings, you should understand that some words are just added annoyance, and some grievances have to be swallowed by yourself after all.
Silence, you can't say
what you need to see through is experience, and if you don't poke it out, you need a rare accomplishment.
dealing with the world has always been one of the courses that each of us must learn, and in this course, the most important point is not to embarrass others.
because your every word and deed will record your good and evil, every good and evil will have a corresponding cause and effect, and everything will be borne by yourself.
therefore, to control your mouth, not to say meaningless words, and to know how to be silent at the right time is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of realm.
writer Gan Bei once told such a story:
in high school, the father of one of her female classmates was a bank security guard.
due to the unique sensitivity and inferiority complex of adolescence, this female classmate always lies when asked about her father's occupation. "Dad is a clerk at the bank counter."
as a matter of fact, everyone knows it, but no one has ever exposed it.
once, when everyone went to eat Spicy Hot Pot, her father came head-on, wearing a security suit.
the female classmate was ashamed and stood in the same place with an embarrassed face.
Ganbei said, "in this way, we have a tacit understanding to protect the girl's fragile self-esteem for three years."
there are many things in this world that you don't know and the bitterness you can't see.
people who think they can see through the world and can give advice to them are very cruel.
there is a concept in psychology, called empathy, which, as the old saying goes, means not to do to others what you do not want to do to others.
the book "sincerity is priceless" says:
"when others need help, if a person does not hesitate to sacrifice his own interests, even if only a little, without the knowledge of others, this is the most sincere expression of kindness and the most commendable."
therefore, it is difficult not to talk about people, not to poke people short, and not to ask people for personal matters. That is what life is all about.
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Silence is needless to say
those who believe in you will not leave without arguing or arguing.
there is a cloud in the Book of songs:
"those who know me say I am worried; those who do not know me say what I want."
We often think about changing and reversing other people's thoughts because of a comment from others.
do not realize that people do not live for the evaluation of others, the important thing is to cultivate their own heart.
there is a temple where incense is very prosperous, in which there lives an eminent monk with a wise name.
suddenly one day, a small monk came to report that the meritorious money in the temple hall had been stolen, and the abbot called a meeting to find the thief.
the monks all rushed to the main hall, talking to each other and speculating that when the incense money was stolen, there was only one worry-free Zen master.In the main hall, he must have stolen from himself.
although everyone has misunderstood him and quarantined him since then, the Zen master did not give any explanation.
after a while, the abbot of the temple called a meeting and said, "the money in the merit box has not been lost. This is just a test I have done."
Don't worry Zen Master did not explain half a point from beginning to end. After he was wronged, monks apologized and admired him even more.
nine times out of ten, there are unsatisfactory things in the world.
in the face of other people's "picky", the only thing you can do is to wisely not live in the mouth of others, choose your own comfortable way of life, live freely.
slowly you will understand that silence is the best weapon for indisputable people and things.
so, after too many unfair comments, we should slowly learn to let it go. After all, not everything needs to be explained, and not everyone deserves your explanation.
Silence, which belongs to its quiet power, is the low profile of keeping a low profile, but also the indifference after seeing the world clearly.
your timely silence can not be said, let alone. We must understand that no matter what kind of verbal dispute it is, it cannot change the facts. Only silence is the best way to protect our dignity.
so, please control your mouth, use silence instead of noise, quietly accumulate strength, calmly face, in order to live a particularly wonderful life.
in this complex world, may you and I both find peace of mind, as simple as heart, as light as chrysanthemum, not afraid of the change of years, and live freely and happily.