Learn not to speak of goodness and keep your heart happy.
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writer Ernest Hemingway once said:
"it took us two years to learn to speak, but sixty years to learn to shut up."
I think so.
being able to speak is a skill; learning not to speak is not only a person's self-cultivation to the bone, but also a person's kindness to rein in his edge.
very often, in the face of some things and people, we choose not to say, not to represent cowardice, but to reduce contradictions; we choose to be silent, not to be justified, but to stay away from right and wrong.
say, it is an expression; do not say, it is a statement,
I believe that if the pure man clears himself, time will restore the truth.
Don't argue, it's respect
there is a wise saying in the motto United Wall:
"when you sit still, you often think about your own mistakes, and you can't talk about others."
the world is so big that there is no shortage of people to express their opinions. What is lacking is not to casually evaluate the kindness and self-cultivation of others.
knowing people without judging others is a kind of respect and self-discipline when dealing with people.
I remember that in a movie, a depressed girl had an argument when she didn't give up her seat to an old man on a bus. The scene was filmed by reporters to make news, and the girl was ridiculed and abused by thousands of netizens.
she lost her job and friends and became a "street rat" shouted by everyone. No matter how much she apologized, the girl committed suicide under the weight of public opinion.
what they don't know is that the girl was diagnosed with terminal cancer the day she didn't give up her seat, and she was immersed in grief.
most of the time, as onlookers, we can't really empathize, let alone see all the truth, but at least we can choose to be silent and be kind.
Life is really hard, and everyone is carrying a heavy load. Sometimes your improper comment may be the last straw to crush the camel, causing unpredictable harm to others.
if you can't see other people's lives clearly or understand other people's lives, don't easily judge and criticize, don't speculate and make comments.
Don't slip your tongue, it's self-cultivation
you must have met such people in your work life who always say disturbing and disturbing things regardless of time and occasion.
when you post a Valentine's Day gift joyfully, he will say coldly: show affection, score quickly;
when you finally achieve something after thousands of hard work, he will say sour: showing off doesn't depend on luck;
when you frown about your child's education, he will complain about dislike: your child is not reading material.
A person's sense of proportion when he speaks fully exposes his realm and level.
A well-bred person will not be disappointed by a slip of the tongue, let alone heartache by poisonous words.
there is a saying in Di Zi Gui:
"do not reveal that people are short; if people are selfish, do not say."
everyone has untouchable corners. Don't regard outspoken words as frank and straightforward, and don't regard aggressiveness as bad advice.
as the saying goes, "words are not many, hope words are expensive, and kind words are skillful."
to say what should be said, not to say what should not be said, to divide the field into objects, not to be more obtrusive, is a person's wisdom and self-cultivation in dealing with the world.
the depth of the water is silent, and a man is silent.
not to say, it is a clear understanding of the world, is the precipitation of round wisdom;
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not to say, is to know that the edge is not exposed, words are full of warmth and kindness to others.
be born human, please be kind
there is a saying in Zengguang Xianwen:
"A good word warms you in three winters, but a bad word hurts you in June."
born a human being, everyone has his own difficulties and joys, obscure and bright, sometimes kind words and considerate to others, but also to fulfill themselves.
writer Jia Pingwa once wrote a story in which a passer-by with a stammer came to ask for directions, and the person who happened to give directions also stuttered, so he pointed out that the passers-by did not say a word during the whole process, but just drew with his hands.
someone was surprised and asked why, and the guide said, "people stutter, too. If I talk, that person will think I'm imitating and teasing."
understanding of being kind to others and being considerate of yourself and others is a rare kindness.
from a person's "silence", we can also see his noble character and high-level cultivation.
as Zhang ailing said, "because you understand, you are merciful."
when we can deeply feel each other's embarrassment, be able to take care of other people's emotions from the bottom of our heart, be able to see the advantages of others with appreciative eyes, and don't say anything wrong, slip up, or say too much, we will take good care of others in our hearts.
Life is short. I hope we can all be kind, speak rationally, be silent at the right time, make less self-righteous remarks, and measure the warmth of our hearts.
people who are really cultured know that silence has its power.
for the rest of my life, may you and I understand the wisdom of "don't say", don't maliciously slander in front of right and wrong, don't tell me what to do in front of trifles, and smile calmly in front of gossip.
come back after thousands of sails, the years are still safe, learn not to say the good, quietly keep the inner joy.
, good night.
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