For a woman to have a good life, she must first learn to love herself.
among the older generation, there is a saying:
when men are blessed, they often have their own blessings, while women bring blessings to the whole family.
the real blessing of a woman is not how well she marries, but how beautiful she can live her life.
it is not advisable to rely on the blessing of others; to rely on yourself is the blessing earned for a long time.
A woman with these three characteristics is a blessed person, and a man is blessed if he encounters it.
be kind to others and be friendly to others
as the saying goes, the face is a mirror that reflects the heart.
A person with a good mind always gives people a feeling of friendliness and amiability in appearance.
such a woman, sensible and general, moistens all things and quietly sows goodness, warms herself and fragrances others.
Grandma has always been an introverted person in the eyes of our younger generation. She is extremely gentle to her family and children, gets along well with her neighbors and colleagues, and is very friendly to everyone.
for a time, we thought she had no friends, but sometimes we often went to see her because she was distressed.
I just understood what Grandma said:
"when you can do a good job in any situation, some people have been left behind. when you go further, you will meet fellow travelers, and you will be a lifelong companion and lifelong friend."
to be kind to others, she pursues not only the reward that can be seen now, but also a woman's best conscience.
when a woman has a good heart, she can naturally attract blessings and become a lucky and blessed person.
Feng Lun once told about a female investor who was not highly educated and had met both good and bad guys along the way.
but no matter under any circumstances, when she can help others, she chooses to help others. She has never changed her original mind, and virtually her reputation in the eyes of others is getting better and better.
like the dignitaries she met later, they all came from her experience of helping others.
in her words, her success stems from her kindness.
in the four teachings of Leafan, it is said: "A man is good, though happiness has not yet arrived, evil is far away; man is evil, and although disaster has not yet arrived, blessing is far away."
kind-hearted women always have dignitaries to help them in times of crisis, not because they are lucky, but because they accumulate praise for themselves every time they help others.
Women may not be beautiful, but they can't be unkind.
the more kind-hearted a woman is, the more friendly she is to others and the softer her face is, and God will give all her good luck.
look aside and be bearish and contented.
Zhu Deyong has a cartoon showing a woman who committed suicide by jumping off a building and falling down. She saw--
the loving couple on the 10th floor are fighting; Alice, who is usually strong on the ninth floor, is secretly crying; the little sister on the eighth floor finds her fiance with his best friend.
Qianqian on the seventh floor is taking her antidepressants; Ah Fa, who is unemployed on the sixth floor, buys 10 newspapers a day to look for a job; and Dean Zhang, who is respected by everyone on the fifth floor, is stealing his wife's stockings.
she regretted: "before I jumped, I thought I was the unluckiest person in the world. After looking at their situation, I suddenly felt that I was actually doing well."
indeed, life is like a multifaceted mirror, you always look bleak here, but from another angle, you will find that life is originally colorful, and the key lies in contentment.
Busy searching a piece of light pink bridesmaid dresses to show your femininity? Let them shower you with a display of exquisite taste.
as the Nebula Master said:
you can't have spring flowers and autumn moon at the same time, you can't have fruits and flowers at the same time, and all the benefits can't be yours.
you have to learn to weigh the pros and cons and learn to give up something before you can get something. "
We always say that women who love to laugh will not have too bad luck. That is because the woman who can still laugh when she is in trouble is not stupid, but optimistic and strong engraved in her bones.
optimistic women smile brightly and are cheerful, and they will survive even if they encounter great difficulties; on the contrary, if they always let go of everything and care about everything, then good things will become bad things.
there are two neighbors around me. The hostess of the family is gentle. She always prefers to suffer losses rather than owe others. She seldom quarrels with others about anything.
although the hostess of another house is smiling on the surface, she always has to take advantage of others, and she always has to win or lose when she encounters a matter of interest.
over time, there are more and more neighbors who are always considerate of others, and there are more and more friends around them. when there are good things, they will always think of her, and her family life is getting better and better, and the family with a daughter still wants to become in-laws with her.
the neighbor, who is fussy and always wants to take advantage, is gradually isolated by everyone, and no one wants to associate with her, even from children.
in this world, if you are good to others, others will be nice to you. No one is really stupid. Everyone has an account in their hearts, but they just don't say it.
some things are yours, no one can take it away, it's not yours, and it's no use arguing.
sometimes, taking a step back is ostensibly a loss, but it wins a blessing.
so, women arriveDon't think too much in middle age, put aside unnecessary thoughts, and blessings will come uninvited.
enjoy life and be kind to yourself
someone in Zhihu has asked a question: how can it be called loving yourself well?
one answer goes like this:
Don't be too hard on yourself, eat whatever you want and do whatever you like, but there must be a bottom line.
do not easily change yourself for others, do not wronge yourself, be happy every day, that is, love yourself well.
Yes, the good blessing of a woman is to be herself firmly and keep the truth, goodness and beauty in her heart.
at the age of knowing her destiny, the writer Yan Geling still has a girlish figure, excellent temperament and full femininity.
Chen Chong, her best friend who has been dating her for more than 20 years, has "exposed her faults." Yan Geling is a woman who is "willing to spend money" and has never seen her without makeup.
Yan Geling said, "if you love your husband, you can't eat out of shape, relax your muscles or look haggard. This is the discipline of love.
although my life is rough, writing makes my life positive and vigorous, so I look younger than my peers. "
I think so!
A person who loves life must have a heart to love life, even if the worst situation will come.
Marriage leaves many women's world with nothing but firewood, rice, oil and salt, warm in winter and cool in summer, except for their husbands and children.
but often the more dedicated a woman is, the more likely she is not to be cherished.
you can give in love, or even give a little more, but what you fear most is to break into the besieged city of marriage and lose yourself.
A star once talked about the concept of marriage in an interview. "I don't expect too much about marriage," she said. "my bottom line is to always be myself in marriage."
No matter what age group, women should not neglect themselves for the sake of their family, let alone pin their own happiness on others.
A woman who is mentally poor will only bring her own barren aura, while a woman who knows how to be kind to her will be more and more blessed.
for a woman to have a good life, she must first learn to love herself.
there is no good luck that falls from the sky, all the blessings are accumulated by yourself.
A kind-hearted person is only fooled for a while, and one day God will supply you with what he owes you one by one.
I hope you try to do what you like and interesting, manage your life seriously, and practice being kind to yourself.
May you be a truly blessed person without fear of the future, without thinking about the past, holding the spirit of heart and fearless from afar.