To be angry is an instinct, but to know how to restrain is an ability.
Life is like spiritual practice, the path is long and hindered.
there is warm sunshine and cold wind and frost on the way.
our mood is like an inverted hourglass, anger and happiness on one side, more angry moments, less happiness.
instead of being angry, learn to practice your heart.
if the mind changes, the attitude changes with it;
when your attitude changes, your life changes.
in just a few decades, always haggling over things is undoubtedly the greatest consumption of life.
when you are angry, please recite these four sentences silently, so that you will be calm and calm.
not worth it
Aesop once said:
"one needs to be gentle and not to be excessively angry, for anger often brings great calamity to the irritable."
Last century, there was a famous billiards match.
seeded player Louis. Fox is very proud, because his result is far ahead, as long as the normal play, the championship trophy for him, like a bag of things.
however, a small thing that happened at the beginning of the game led to unexpected results.
A fly inadvertently landed on the cue ball. Louis didn't care at first. He waved away the fly, leaned down and posed for the ball.
but the fly came back and landed on the cue ball again, impartially.
he frowned and drove away the flies.
unexpectedly, it came again, and the pesky fly seemed to have a grudge against Louis and still landed on the cue ball.
the stubborn fly "spoiled the situation" several times, causing the audience around to laugh coaxingly.
Louis was so angry that he flushed, swung his club angrily and hit the fly.
as a result, this shot accidentally hit the cue ball. According to the rules of the game, Louis had already hit the ball, so he had to return to his seat angrily.
when it was his opponent John's turn to take the stage, he seized this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and played a series of good results.
so John won the game.
Louis kept swearing, broke the club and walked out of the game angrily.
everyone sighed: Louis lost a game because of a fly.
but which is more important, a fly or a game?
although the fly comes to make trouble, its mood can't be swayed by it.
anger is like a fly flying about, which makes us lose our original peace.
A happy mood, a precious opportunity, is destroyed by a single anger.
it's no big deal, so why get angry?
it's not worth it!
Don't be serious
anger, let us lose not only a game, but also a lot of opportunities and happy times.
Zhou Guoping said:
"A lot of pain in life comes from blind competition."
in life, there are not so many right and wrong, open-minded, life can be as sweet as honey; haggling, life will become chaos.
my colleague Sasha divorced after six months of marriage. The trigger for divorce, which is very dramatic, stems from a "laundry incident".
she likes to use a decorative cover to cover the washing machine.
Sasha's husband objected: "what kind of cover do you often use for washing machines?" It's not convenient. "
so, as soon as he saw it, he took it down immediately.
Sasha put it on again, and the two often quarreled over the matter.
after collecting her clothes from the balcony, she is used to leaving the clothes hanger on the clothes pole, while her husband must put it away because she "stays there and falls ash."
Sasha was very angry: it was very inconvenient for me to hang clothes.
the two people will not give way to each other, and it is inevitable to quarrel, and after the quarrel, we must ask clearly which sentence the quarrel is about and whose fault it is.
that's it. I can't go on.
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when Sasha finished, we all thought it a pity.
laundry is only the fuse, the real reason is that it is too serious.
when there is a difference of opinion, one side refuses to yield, the other refuses to give in and competes with each other.
A small friction triggered an earthquake in an intimate relationship.
when I was young, I always felt that the truth had to be understood in order to be convinced.
getting older and more experienced, I finally found out:
trying to understand everything hurts the most, and trying to figure out everything is the most tiring.
think of a very popular short story:
A husband and wife play chess and see themselves on the brink of victory.
the wife began to cheat, saying that her horse could walk the word "field" because it was a Chollima. After hearing this, the husband could just smile.
her elephant is Dumbo
what is even more bizarre is that the wife played Infernal Affairs and unexpectedly killed her husband's general with her husband's taxi, saying that this was the man she sent to her husband's camp.
the husband did not compete with his wife and willingly threw in the towel.
in fact, any good relationship needs someone who knows how to be soft.Give in first, don't take it seriously.
be serious with your lover, even if you win the battle, the love will fade.
is like a highly praised answer on a topic:
"most of the men who like to be serious with their wives become ex-husbands. Please go to court to be reasonable. home is a place to talk about love. "
accept yourself without demanding on each other, so you can get along with each other in harmony and affectionately.
it doesn't matter
Liang Shiqiu once said:
"when the blood is boiling, the reason is not very clear, words and deeds are easy to exceed points, and it is not suitable for others and for themselves."
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, was an official to a second grade in the Daoguang period, but he always kept a low profile.
the second grade official can take the green sedan chair carried by eight people, but Zeng Guofan still rides the original blue four-person sedan chair.
according to the rule, the blue sedan chair must make way for the green sedan chair.
one day, Zeng Guofan went out in a sedan chair and met a green sedan chair head on on a narrow road. Zeng Guofan ordered people to pull over, but the other side still couldn't get through.
seeing that the sedan chair opposite did not give way in time, the official could not help saying that he pulled people out of the sedan chair angrily, ready to scold him.
unexpectedly, it was Zeng Guofan who came out.
the other party hurriedly knelt and kowtowed to beg the adult's forgiveness.
Zeng Guofan picked up the official and said sincerely, "it doesn't matter. I am really in the way of adults. It is important for adults to hurry."
We can also meet such people in our lives who may be bitter and angry because of some trivial things.
even, be sure to ask for an explanation until you see the other person eating shrunken and subdued, and he is not willing to give up.
in fact, the width of the heart is one inch and the width of the road is one inch.
being a man wins in kindness and loses in temper.
in the Book of Rites, it is said that "joy, anger, sorrow, fear, love, evil, and lust are capable of learning", which means that all kinds of emotions are instinctive.
to be angry, but it is an ability to know how to restrain.
when you meet someone who offends you, say "it doesn't matter". It's a big deal to ignore it.
if you can keep your temper down, you can become an atmosphere.
Wisdom comes from a tolerant heart.
A psychologist did an experiment: he asked experimenters to write down angry things on the first weekend and throw them into large cardboard boxes.
by the end of the second week, he checked with the experimental members one by one and found that 90% of the things no longer made them angry.
then he asked everyone to put the remaining 10% back into the cardboard box and come back in two weeks.
as a result, we found that 10% of this irritating rate is no longer a problem, and they are fully capable of solving it.
the ancient Roman philosopher Seneca once said, "the best cure for anger is procrastination."
No matter how long the night is, there will be the light of dawn.
No matter how long the cold winter is, there will be a day when spring returns.
No matter how much trouble you have, it will pass.
"Bamboo stick and awn shoes are better than horses, who is afraid?" A haze of misty rain will lead a lifetime. "
ups and downs are the norm. Everything will eventually clear up after the rain. Only by looking at it can we live well.
if there's anything that really bothers you, leave it to time.
it is not worth adding so much anger and annoyance to one's life and vegetation.
the vicissitudes of the world, get lost, and eventually become clouds and smoke, the more you care, the narrower your space is.
for the rest of your life, may you look down on everything, smile often, everything goes with the wind, and leaves do not stick to you.
in this way, we will live up to our visit to the world.
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