Open-minded bamboo has low-headed leaves, proud plum has no upside flowers.
Life is a sea of life, things are impermanent, and everyone has a different way of living.
in life, we will inevitably meet some people who want to be recognized by others, who never rein in their edge and use ostentation to brush their sense of existence.
do not realize that the greatest sorrow of human nature is actually high-profile and publicity.
people who are really rich at heart never show off everything they have.
as the saying goes:
the more a person likes to show off, the easier it is to lose something.
showing off with a high profile will only show your shallowness, while showing off is more likely to cause trouble.
therefore, when you reach middle age, do not show off, let alone show off everything.
exaggerate facts and show off contacts
Zhihu once had a question: "are contacts really useful?"
A highly praised answer is: "you are not strong, no matter how many contacts are useless."
networking is not one-way, but two-way.
but if you don't have the ability, no matter how many people you know, it's pointless.
Wang Shimin, founder of YouCore, once said one thing.
when Wang Shimin's wife was studying in MBA, a classmate, Lao Yang, was almost never absent from any activities.
whether it's dinner competitions, campus visits or parties, Lao Yang spends at least three or four days a week on various social activities.
Wang Shimin's wife was very puzzled by this kind of behavior, but Lao Yang said, "isn't the purpose of studying MBA to accumulate contacts?"
over time, many people in the school got to know him, and Lao Yang often described himself as "well-connected." Today, he showed off which brother he met and which professor he had dinner with yesterday.
however, when there was something wrong with Lao Yang's graduation defense, no one was willing to help him.
in the end, it took only one more year to get an MBA degree.
there are many such people in their lives who place their lives on networking and plunge into parties and socializing.
but in reality, the contacts that we used to be proud of have come to naught at the critical moment and can't help at all.
so, how can anyone be well-connected? The so-called network is just the exchange of value between people.
the adult world is cruel, and your strength is your greatest social strength.
people have no strength, and no matter how many contacts they have, they are just bragging and showing off.
as the book "minimalist Force" says:
when you don't reach a higher level, connections are worthless. Remember, connections are not sought after, but attracted.
instead of being infatuated with illusory relationships, it is better to manage yourself and stand up on your own.
as the old saying goes, "the deep mountains often have the presence of dragons, while Wugao has its own Phoenix habitat
, as long as people have their own strength, do not need to brush the sense of existence, contacts will climb.
in this world, it doesn't matter who you know, it's who you want to be.
A really good person never needs to cater to the eyes of others, but chooses to cultivate himself.
after all, if you work hard and are excellent, you don't have to curry favor and rely on others to prove your excellence.
because your best person is yourself, and networking is just the icing on the cake.
love vanity and show off wealth
Italian jewelry dealer Meleki went to London for a gem auction.
he saw an old man sitting next to him, dressed in ordinary clothes, but wearing a watch set with several gems.
Meleki asked the old man, "your jewel watch is valuable, isn't it?"
the old man smiled and said, "No, it's just an ordinary watch!"
when Meleki heard this, he seemed a little proud, so he showed off how many gems he had in his home, and ignored the cold faces of others, and talked eloquently about his own method of identifying gems.
auction, Meleki sold a precious sapphire for £60,000.
after the show was over, Meleki got the jewel and went to the old man to show off again.
but didn't want to, the old man said:
"just now I saw what you said with great delight. I think you are also very good at identifying gems, so I didn't remind you. I don't want you to buy it, the gem is worth far less than £60,000. "
Meleki was shocked. It was only then that he realized that the old man in front of him was special. He was Graff, the world jewellery tycoon.
British writer William Somerset Maugham said:
"what you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and the cleverness you have to deal with when you want to be in the limelight."
people live in the world, there are always some people who have a good face and show superiority.
they always like to try their best to promote themselves, hoping to satisfy their vanity through the sense of identity of others in exchange for a different view of others.
but in reality, things often go against one's wishes.
infinite expansion of showing off, many times will not get the envy of others from the bottom of their hearts, but easy to be despised by everyone, let oneself become a joke.
you must know that no matter how much wealth you have, money is just something outside the body.
the really richPeople, from disdain for the vanity brought by money, have long forgotten their own identity and let go of their sense of superiority.
moreover, since you already have it, why worry about it all the time!
the days are for yourself, not for others. What you need to do is to make yourself expensive from the inside to the outside, and have the strength and ability to support "vanity".
your life must be free and easy and live a lot more thoroughly.
domineering and showing off knowledge
Su Dongpo, a great writer of the Northern Song Dynasty, was intelligent, intelligent and well-read from an early age, and was often praised by people.
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after a long time, Su Dongpo, who became famous as a teenager, could not help feeling a little complacent, with his eyes above the top and paying no attention to anyone.
one day, when he went on an outing in the countryside, he saw many farmers picking up mud and fertile fields.
when he walked on the ridge of the field, he did not expect to meet a peasant woman carrying mud head on, blocking his way.
the two men will not give way to each other, and there will be a stalemate.
Su Dongpo said arrogantly: "everything is inferior, but reading is high." I am a scholar, and your wife should give way to me. "
the peasant woman showed no sign of weakness and replied, "since you claim to be a scholar, I'll give you an upper couplet. If you can find the lower couplet, I'll make way for you."
Su Dongpo paid no attention to the peasant woman at all: "the bullfight is hidden in the chest and the economy is full of fiber, of course."
when the peasant woman heard this, she blurted out impolitely, "A heavy load of mud is in the way."
Su Dongpo was surprised when he heard this. Zhong Ni was Confucius and Zilu was a student of Confucius. He could not help being stunned and could not answer for a while.
the farmer working in the ridge of the field couldn't help laughing when he saw Su Dongpo's embarrassment.
finally Su Dongpo was very witty. Seeing this scene, he suddenly realized something, and hurriedly said to Tao Xialian: "the Master of the two lines smiles back."
although he is on the couplet, he also realizes that he is really too ostentatious and arrogant.
also understood that no one should be underestimated, so he hurriedly took off his shoes and socks and went down to the field to make way for the peasant woman.
since then, Su Dongpo has put down his arrogant attitude, stopped being arrogant and learned to respect everyone.
likes a sentence very much:
"weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
think about it carefully, there is nothing wrong with being a human being and like to show yourself, but there are always some people who are so swollen that they think that everyone has to make way for themselves.
"Caigen Tan" says:
"the eagle stands like sleep, and the tiger acts like a disease, which is where he grabs people and eats people. Therefore, a gentleman has to be smart and talented in order to have the strength to shoulder Hong Ren. "
you show off your talent too much not only can not win the recognition of others, but will humiliate yourself, revealing your shallowness and barren.
and the more knowledgeable people are, the more they can recognize themselves and accept their own smallness and mediocrity.
they never talk about knowledge, know how to hide their edge, do not pretend to be arrogant, and do not rely on their talents and things.
as the saying goes: solid ink does not want empty ink to sound, full bottle does not move half bottle shake.
keep three points in everything, don't overestimate yourself and don't underestimate others.
No matter what situation you are in, don't indulge in the past blindly. Learn to show others with a low profile and spur yourself to forge ahead in order to create unlimited highlights.
therefore, do not always want to show off, only do not laugh at the shortcomings of others, not proud of their own strengths, can go a long way.
as the old saying goes, "if the wood is better than the forest, the wind will destroy it; if the pile comes from the shore, the current will be turbulent; if you walk higher than man, the public will not do it."
if you show off too much, you will offend people if you are light, and you will get into trouble if you are serious.
the humble bamboo has low head leaves, and the proud plum has no upside flowers.
people live a lifetime, expensive but not obvious, flashy, low-key, is foresight, humility, is wisdom.
, time flies, time flies, may we not be frivolous, meditatively enjoy joy, sober and transparent through life.
this is the best time in life.