A person's most authentic upbringing is hidden in the details of his usual chat.
when you are alive, you inevitably have to deal with different people, and the first thing to do with people is to communicate.
the way a person speaks not only hides his attitude towards the world, but also reveals his character.
therefore, if you want to see a person's quality clearly, you can understand it from the Wechat posted by the other person.
perfunctory attitude, love to answer and ignore
I saw a topic comment on Zhihu that day: when did you decide to give up on someone?
someone at the bottom replied: "when I took 99 steps towards ta and ta didn't get any closer to me."
you bought expired milk and found that it had passed its expiration date, but he said, "even if your brain is not working well, your eyes are useless."
the evening sky is like God knocked over the color palette, the sunset glow is like blood, you shoot him, he says, "that's it, it's all right";
on the way home from late night overtime, I saw that the star overhead was very bright, and you told him that he said, "you really have free time";
while walking in the community, you see an old couple who stumble and support each other. You say you are envious, but he says, "there is no true love in the era of fast food."
he either doesn't reply to the interesting things you share with him, or he says something perfunctory every few hours.
until one day, when you go shopping with your friend, you find a new dessert shop, and you are about to tell him, but considering his perfunctory attitude and indifferent tone, you immediately delete the long list of words.
the end of a relationship begins with a loss of desire to share.
you are long and eloquent, and he is perfunctory with a few words;
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you are sincere and emotional, and he is as cold as ice and indifferent.
the people we all hope to meet have an account for everything, a reason for everything, and an echo for everything.
but in many cases, the message sent to the other party is like being sucked into a black hole, silent and silent;
even if the chat page says "the other party is typing", there is no reply.
whether it is a lover or a friend, a timely reply after receiving a message is a basic social etiquette and a touchstone of character.
people with good character, know how to respect others, do not embarrass people when chatting, and sometimes do not reply in time, they will also explain the reasons and make others feel the warmth of being respected.
I feel at ease when dealing with this kind of person.
and those who are used to "uh-huh" and "Oh" perfunctory, or disappear while chatting, tend to make people uncomfortable and have a sense of distance.
A person's most authentic upbringing is hidden in the details of his usual chat.
people who are really worth talking to, not silent, not perfunctory, not cold-faced, if you go further to ta, ta will also take a step towards you.
looking for you, nothing is far away from you
this happens to many people on Wechat:
an old classmate who has been out of touch for a long time suddenly asked you on Wechat, "are you there?" Oh, I'm probably asking for your help.
after you help, he will hide and come back to you when something happens, and once you need it, he will pass the buck, or even deliberately alienate him.
such people, who cross the river and tear down bridges and are ungrateful, only think of you when they need you. Even if they hit it off again, don't make friends with you. For a long time, it will only chill your heart!
not long ago, I added Wechat with a long-lost college classmate by mistake.
I haven't seen you after graduation for many years. I naturally had a very lively chat at first, and all kinds of embarrassing things about my student days poured out all of a sudden.
but then it slowly changed. She sold acting fruit on Wechat, and it was "duty-bound" to take care of the business at first.
for the sake of the face of my old classmates, I thought it was all something easy to do, so I could help.
but after once, twice, and countless times, helping seemed to be taken for granted, and the other person didn't even bother to say "thank you".
in fact, such things are very common around you.
people who haven't been in touch for 800 years, when they need you, they get close to you and only help you, but they usually don't bother to use one or two pleasantries to maintain a relationship.
just like in the TV series I am Yu Huanshui, when Lu Fumeng needed to borrow money, he became friends with Yu Huanshui and talked to each other, and Yu Huanshui was excited to lend the money.
when Yu Huanshui needed money to get back from his "good brother," Lu Fumeng evaded all sorts of excuses, that is, he did not return the money.
have read such a sentence:
the best relationship is to get in touch with each other when you have something to do. Never think of it, never forget it.
but ignore the fact that the connection here is "mutual", not that you have difficulties, I support you in all directions, and you turn a deaf ear to me when I am in trouble.
there is no time in this world that can't be squeezed out, only appointments that you don't want to keep, no people who pretend to be stupid, only sincerity who refuses to give.
hypocritical people will soon be out of touch, and estranged relationships will gradually disappear.
A relationship can only be achieved by respecting and promoting each other.
chewing on the roots, making a fuss about nothing
there is an old Chinese saying, "it is better to swear in front of others than to talk about others behind them."
everyone who likes to gossip and gossip seems to be on the tongue.Excellent, slandering others, in fact, betraying themselves.
because from the moment he spread rumors about other people's right and wrong, his quality and character have been hung on the edge of the cliff, and sooner or later he will fall to the bottom of the valley.
recently, Xiao Wu, a 28-year-old girl, ruined her whole life on Wechat by three strangers because she took a delivery.
Xiao Wu went to the courier to pick up the package as usual that day, waiting for the courier for a moment, the owner of the convenience store next door secretly photographed her with her mobile phone and sent it to the group of car friends.
when another man in the group saw the video, he immediately changed his Wechat nickname and profile picture and pretended to be the girl in the video.
sang along with the convenience store owner and vividly concocted a story full of "infinite reverie": "the lonely young woman, taking advantage of the opportunity of express delivery, had an affair with the courier."
in order to increase credibility, the convenience store owner also took a serious video of himself walking into the neighborhood.
A fragrant story made up out of thin air was born without warning.
one spread ten, ten spread a hundred. The girl who was secretly photographed didn't know she was "hot" until the friend around her reminded her.
the three men who lied about the rumor were finally administratively detained for nine days, but it was a lasting shadow for the girl for the rest of her life.
gossip is nothing but a conversation or two after dinner, but at a large level, it is a weapon to attack and harm others at will.
some people will never see that others are better than themselves. when others are promoted, they will rely on their relationships. when others get rich, they will earn dirty money.
little do you know that those who talk about people behind their backs may not know when they will become "jokes" in the mouth of others.
sit still and often think about your own mistakes and gossip about others.
A person who has demands on himself, at any time, will not easily talk about others behind his back, let alone spread other people's privacy.
sincerity and trust are always mutual. If you make others feel reliable, they will come close to you.
whether it is right or wrong in front of people, and no matter how long or short they are, this is the best education to be a man.
people are in interpersonal relationships all the time in this life.
often how Wechat responds to you represents his attitude towards you.
Heart and heart are opposite to each other, and feelings and feelings are equal.
you can pretend to be confused, but you can't be really confused; you can worry less about making friends, but you can't be without principles.
only by distinguishing the good from the bad and distinguishing the true from the false, can we stay away from ineffective social interaction and gain true friends.
in the following days, may the people you meet are kind and loving, not perfunctory, not fooling around, live up to, treat people sincerely, and do things reliably.